How do we know if we need couples therapy?

If you keep having the same argument without it going anywhere, if emotional distance has set in and you're not sure how it happened, if intimacy has faded or something has shifted that you can't quite name — those are signs the work might be useful. You don't need to be in crisis. A lot of couples benefit from coming in before things deteriorate significantly.

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

EFT is an evidence-based, attachment-focused model of couples therapy. Its aim isn't to teach communication techniques — it's to help partners reach the emotions underneath the patterns: the fear, the longing, the hurt that often drives conflict or withdrawal. When partners can actually access and share those deeper experiences with each other, the dynamic between them tends to shift.

Do you take sides in couples therapy?

No. My role is to help both of you understand what's happening between you and access what's often hidden beneath defensiveness or distance. The goal isn't to establish who's right. It's to help you understand each other more fully and build something more secure between you.

What if one partner is more reluctant than the other?

Very common. One partner usually gets there first. Ambivalence about the process is something we can work with directly rather than around — it often carries useful information about the relationship itself. A consultation is a low-stakes way for both partners to get a feel for things before committing.

Can couples therapy help if we're considering separation?

Yes. Therapy can help partners figure out whether they want to stay together and what that would actually require — or process a separation in a way that minimizes damage to both people. Sometimes the most valuable outcome is helping a couple arrive at a clear, honest decision, whatever that turns out to be.

Couples Therapy in NYC and Across New York and Florida (EFT-based)

I offer psychodynamic and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples in NYC (in-person and telehealth) and across New York and Florida via telehealth.

I work with partners experiencing repeated conflict, difficulty communicating, emotional disconnection, attachment injuries, and the lingering impact of complex trauma on their relationship.

Many couples come to therapy feeling stuck in reactive cycles: one partner pursues while the other withdraws. For some, arguments escalate or partners shut down entirely. For others, it’s more subtle: a loss of intimacy, sexual disconnection, or a sense that closeness has faded.

Using EFT, we identify and slow down these recurring interaction patterns and help each partner access and express the deeper emotions underneath. EFT is an evidence-based, attachment-focused model with a strong research foundation. It’s an approach that works less on teaching communication techniques and more on helping partners reach each other at a deeper emotional level.

Alongside EFT, I integrate relational psychodynamic therapy to explore how early attachment experiences, family-of-origin dynamics, and trauma shape how each partner shows up in the relationship.

Together, this work helps couples:

Interrupt reactive conflict cycles
Repair trust after ruptures and attachment injuries
Understand each other more deeply
Strengthen intimacy and security
Develop a more stable and connected bond

I work with couples of all relationship structures, including monogamous partnerships, open relationships, ethical non-monogamy, and polyamory, as well as LGBTQ+ relationships. The goal is not to assign blame, but to build a secure relational foundation where each partner feels seen, respected, and emotionally understood.

This work may be a good fit if you:

Feel stuck in repeated arguments or pursue/withdraw cycles
Struggle with emotional or physical intimacy
Are navigating betrayal, attachment wounds, or trauma
Are seeking a space to process the grief over a relationship that may be ending
Want evidence-based, attachment-focused couples therapy
Value depth-oriented exploration alongside practical change

If you’re considering couples therapy, I offer a free consultation to see whether working together feels like a good fit.

If you keep having the same argument without it going anywhere, if emotional distance has set in and you're not sure how it happened, if intimacy has faded or something has shifted that you can't quite name — those are signs the work might be useful. You don't need to be in crisis. A lot of couples benefit from coming in before things deteriorate significantly.
EFT is an evidence-based, attachment-focused model of couples therapy. Its aim isn't to teach communication techniques. It's to help partners reach the emotions underneath the patterns: the fear, the longing, the hurt that often drives conflict or withdrawal. When partners can actually access and share those deeper experiences with each other, the dynamic between them tends to shift.
No. My role is to help both of you understand what's happening between you and access what's often hidden beneath defensiveness or distance. The goal isn't to establish who's right. It's to help you understand each other more fully and build something more secure between you.
This is very common. One partner usually gets there first. Ambivalence about the process is something we can work with directly rather than around. It often carries useful information about the relationship itself. A consultation is a low-stakes way for both partners to get a feel for things before committing.
Yes. Therapy can help partners figure out whether they want to stay together and what that would actually require. It can also help process a separation in a way that minimizes damage to both people. Sometimes the most valuable outcome is helping a couple arrive at a clear, honest decision, whatever that turns out to be.

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