Therapy for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse in NYC and Across New York & Florida
You've carried this for a long time
Maybe you've never spoken about it directly. Maybe you've found ways to manage: through work, through distance, through keeping certain parts of yourself carefully out of reach. From the outside, your life may look intact. But something has remained unsettled, in ways that are difficult to name and harder still to share with another person.
Many male survivors of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) live with the weight of what happened without ever calling it what it was. The cultural silence around male survivors is real. The messages that men don't get hurt this way, or that if they do, they should be able to move past it make it harder to reach out, harder to grieve, and harder to trust that being understood is even possible. It is possible.
What survivors often struggle with
The impact of childhood sexual abuse doesn't follow a single pattern. For many male survivors, it shows up not as a single memory but as a texture to daily life: a part of your history that shapes relationships, self-perception, and your ability to experience emotional safety.
You might recognize some of this:
A persistent sense of shame that doesn't fully lift, even when things are going well
Difficulty with emotional or physical intimacy, or confusion about what you want from closeness
Feeling disconnected from your body, or from yourself
Anger that arrives suddenly and feels disproportionate
A tendency to isolate when things feel too close or too much
Questions about identity, masculinity, or sexuality that feel difficult to resolve
The sense that what happened to you as a child is somehow your fault, or that it says something about who you are
These are not character flaws. They are understandable responses to experiences that were overwhelming, confusing, and that you shouldn’t have had to go through.
On masculinity, identity, and what abuse does and doesn't mean
One of the particular burdens male survivors often carry is the confusion abuse creates around identity and sexuality. Childhood sexual abuse does not define your sexuality. It does not mean you invited what happened, that your body's response indicated consent, or that the experience reflects anything about who you are as a man.
These thought loops are common, yet they’re also not true. Part of this work involves gently and carefully untangling what happened from what it means.
My approach
I offer psychodynamic, somatic, trauma-informed individual therapy for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse in New York City and across New York and Florida.
This work moves at a pace your nervous system can tolerate. There is no pressure to disclose everything at once, no agenda to process material before it feels safe to do so. The early work is often about building enough trust and internal stability that deeper exploration becomes possible. This is not because the past needs to be relived but instead because it deserves to be understood.
In our work together, we pay attention to how early experiences shaped your attachment patterns, your relationship to your own body, and the ways you've learned to protect yourself. We work with the parts of you that voice your shame, fear, or self-blame. Our goal is not to eliminate those parts of you but to understand what they've been protecting and to offer something different.
This is relational work. The therapeutic relationship itself — what gets built between us over time — is often where the most meaningful change begins. Many survivors have never had the experience of bringing the full truth of what happened into a relationship and finding that the relationship can survive it. That experience, repeated over time, is part of what changes things.
For some clients, this work eventually includes EMDR, a structured approach to trauma processing that can help specific memories lose their charge once sufficient safety and relational groundwork are in place.
Who this work is for
Individual therapy for male survivors may be a good fit if you:
Are a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse who has never addressed it in therapy
Have been in therapy before but feel there is more to explore
Are experiencing relationship difficulties, intimacy struggles, or emotional disconnection you suspect may be connected to earlier experiences
Are carrying shame, self-blame, or confusion about identity or sexuality
Want a therapist with specialized training in trauma and sexual abuse who will not require you to explain the basics
You do not need to be in crisis to reach out. You do not need to have it all figured out before the first conversation.
Reaching out about this is not easy. If you're considering it, that matters.
I offer a free, confidential consultation. It’s a low-pressure opportunity to answer questions and see whether working together feels like a good fit.
I also facilitate a weekly process group specifically for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, one of the few such groups in New York City. For some clients, individual and group work complement each other in meaningful ways.
Going Deeper
I recently spoke at length about working with male survivors of childhood sexual abuse on the Psychiatry & Psychotherapy Podcast with Dr. David Puder, covering disclosure barriers, shame, identity, and what the therapy relationship can offer this population. If you'd like to get a sense of how I think about this work, you're welcome to listen here.
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Extremely common. Years, sometimes decades, can pass before a male survivor speaks about his experience with anyone. The shame runs deep, and so does the cultural silence around male victimization. The message, often unspoken, is that this isn't something that happens to men, or that it shouldn't have affected you the way it did. Coming forward at all takes something real.
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No, nothing here moves faster than you do. There's no agenda to get into difficult material before it feels safe, and no expectation that you'll disclose everything at once. Early work is usually about something more foundational: enough trust, enough internal stability, that going deeper eventually becomes possible.
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What happened to you as a child doesn't determine your sexuality or who you are as a man. It doesn't mean you wanted it, that your body's response meant consent, or that the experience says anything true about your identity. These questions haunt a lot of survivors, and the answers they've arrived at on their own are often wrong. Part of what this work does is carefully pull apart what happened from what it means.
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The group I facilitate for male survivors is both a support group and a process group. Members share their experiences and find connection with others who understand what they've carried — and we also pay attention to what unfolds between members in real time, which often reflects the very patterns survivors want to change in their lives outside the room. It meets weekly and is specifically for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
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Yes, my work is LGBTQ+ affirming. Questions of sexual orientation and gender identity are welcome here, including how they intersect with a survivor's history and sense of self.